My Life As Tanja

I Am A Girl With Curves  I would much rather stay that way if I am being honest. Now there is nothing wrong with a skinny chick... but I would much rather be a curve than a straight line. Do I love every part of my body? No... but I love myself.  This is not to bash someone who is thin... LORD KNOWS... once upon a time I wanted to be thin... I wanted to be like the woman in magazines and movies.. they always seem to be so confident in their body. It wasn't until I was older that I realized that they weren't and I was more confident in my body then most of them. I am not everyone's cup of tea.. and that is ok...I am just like every other woman on the planet, some days are better than others. Some day I want to be thin.. and other days I'm ok with my body.    Of course I want to be healthy... and I think that this is the great myth of plus size woman.. is that were not healthy... Maybe I am not in the best health out there.. but every day I try and make bett...

Schools Out? I n the state of Pennsylvania where I live, our Governor has declared that schools will remain closed for the rest of the year... yeah.. that just happened. Not sure about you mommas out there, but I am not a teacher. I do not have the patience to teach kindergarten and 4th grade... I don't remember them at all. PLUS all the learning has changed. What used to be math is now common core math. I guess the point of common core math is to make the kids look at solving problems? I don't know... but I do know.. I am not the person to teach it. I usually think that I am a patient person, but for some reason... not when it comes to school work.. I just.. I don't have it lol. I know that the teachers and the school districts are doing their best.. I mean, no one expected a pandemic to happen-- or did you? ( just kidding) Unsung Hero's We all know that the hero's in the world right now are the healthcare system and anyone who is e...

Keeping It Simple Is Best Something I have learned from cooking for my family for the years is that the easier I make the meals for my family the more willing they are to eat things. For a refresher my 2 kids are 6 and 9.. they have very different tastes in food. Carter is a total meat eater, if he didn't have to eat a veggie for his whole entire life he would be so ok with that.. especially green beans.. those could all die off of the planet and he would live on happily ever after lol. Alexis started out as a total vegetarian.. slowly she has allowed more than chicken into her diet.. but her love for veggies has not gone away. I never forced my kids to eat what they don't like, but I never stopped introducing and offering the item to them. Instead of offering a huge portion of something (like green beans), I will give small baby sized portions of the item. I will also tell my kids that their taste buds change all the time and maybe they don't like something a week...

How Do You Keep Your Relationship Spicy?  After 10 years of being together honestly, Keith and I have to work on being present in our relationship a lot. Especially because we were young parents,our whole relationship is surrounded around our kids. We literally have to make time to work on our relationship. We didn't really know each other too well when we had our first child together so when we decided to make it work, we were both still in our early 20's and didn't understand that the other person has needs in a relationship.  Weither   those needs were emotional or sexual.. they were not being met.. for either of us. Men and Sex  Men learn everything about sex from pornography, and if you ask the woman in your life she will tell you that the orgasm the girl in the pretzel of a pose is faking it. Sure the reaction to sex is real.. but that BIG orgasm is all acting. Men learn to just stick it in and make it work... HELLO... have you ever heard of four play?? ...

The Struggle Is Real Out Here. I am not sure about any of my other moms( and dads) out there... but I am seriously struggling with all of this. It is not necessarily the whole quarantined thing, honestly I get it. This is all about how I feel on the inside because of this.  I love change, in fact whenever I can change something to hopefully make things better I completely embrace it. I love routine and I love to make a new system more and more productive.  Honestly, since like 2 weeks ago... I feel totally out of control of the change. I get it, no one was prepped for this, and logically this statement makes total sense... but emotionally I feel TERRIBLE .  The Mom Guilt is Real I am not Super mom and I know this, but why do I want to seem like I am?Why is everything in front of me so much more important? Why am I not giving myself the space to do the things that are important to me? What is even important to me at this time?  I mainly think it is beca...

Ok, lets have a chat... in this current time... are you team schedule or team no schedule? Is it better for you and your family to be on a schedule or just roam around and be free? This is a question I see asked a lot recently. Especially while parents who have become stay at home parents that used to not be one- this includes Me and my family. So the Questions remains... to schedule your time or not to schedule your time?? For me and my Family, we are team schedule.  The reason for that would be because I am an control freak hahaha ok....well that's true and all.. but honestly it is because my kids do better on a schedule then off on one. And really that's all that matters. We break our day up into time blocks. Its really helpful for the kids to know that at certain times they have certain responsibilities. It also helps teach my kids about time management... if they only have certain amount of time to do things then they will learn to make choices to fit that time....