I Hope I Raise My Kids To Be Better Than Me

Every mom is different. No one way to be a parent is the right way. I am sure that there are moms out there that would look at the things that I do and think " that is just a bunch of bulls**t", and you know what... your probably right. This parenting thing did not come with a manual. 

Everyday I try my best. Keith and I make decisions about what type of people we want our children to be. We agree that they should be kind, respectful, honest and helpful people. Everything we do it to make sure that they are better than us. 

When we talk about parenting we can not help but think about our own parents. We think about our own child hoods. Keith and I come from two COMPLETELY different upbringings. My mother was a single parent, and Keith grew up in a 2 parent house hold. Talk about different. 

We tend to agree on most things that are child related... now our relationship.. well that's a different story... for another day lol. 

What we normally agree to do is to take the things that we loved from our parents and leave the things that we didn't. We are always better parents than our parents. I know my mom is going to read this, when you read this, please know that I love you and you were a great mom to me. Most of the things that we do are because you taught me to love ( Que the Lil Wayne Song). 

One day, Carter and Lexie will be parents to their own kids ( If they want) and they will do the same things that Keith and I are doing... They will be thinking about what they want to do to take care of their children, I only hope that they take the things that they love from us as parents and leave the things they don't. 

I hope that my Son is warm and kind man. That he care for his partner and is respectful of their choices. That he is never told that " that's for girls" or " boys don't cry". 

I hope my Daughter is a strong warrior, she is patient and understanding. I hope that she care for her partner and is ok with having an opinion as well as accepting that she is wrong and changing. 

I hope that they know that it is ok to be a work in progress. They do not need to be perfect. They just need to try. Try and be better than they were yesterday. It is ok to feel every emotion. 


Till Tomorrow. Stay Safe. Love Ya 💗

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