My Life As Tanja

Schools Out? I n the state of Pennsylvania where I live, our Governor has declared that schools will remain closed for the rest of the year... yeah.. that just happened. Not sure about you mommas out there, but I am not a teacher. I do not have the patience to teach kindergarten and 4th grade... I don't remember them at all. PLUS all the learning has changed. What used to be math is now common core math. I guess the point of common core math is to make the kids look at solving problems? I don't know... but I do know.. I am not the person to teach it. I usually think that I am a patient person, but for some reason... not when it comes to school work.. I just.. I don't have it lol. I know that the teachers and the school districts are doing their best.. I mean, no one expected a pandemic to happen-- or did you? ( just kidding) Unsung Hero's We all know that the hero's in the world right now are the healthcare system and anyone who is e...

Keeping It Simple Is Best Something I have learned from cooking for my family for the years is that the easier I make the meals for my family the more willing they are to eat things. For a refresher my 2 kids are 6 and 9.. they have very different tastes in food. Carter is a total meat eater, if he didn't have to eat a veggie for his whole entire life he would be so ok with that.. especially green beans.. those could all die off of the planet and he would live on happily ever after lol. Alexis started out as a total vegetarian.. slowly she has allowed more than chicken into her diet.. but her love for veggies has not gone away. I never forced my kids to eat what they don't like, but I never stopped introducing and offering the item to them. Instead of offering a huge portion of something (like green beans), I will give small baby sized portions of the item. I will also tell my kids that their taste buds change all the time and maybe they don't like something a week...

How Do You Keep Your Relationship Spicy?  After 10 years of being together honestly, Keith and I have to work on being present in our relationship a lot. Especially because we were young parents,our whole relationship is surrounded around our kids. We literally have to make time to work on our relationship. We didn't really know each other too well when we had our first child together so when we decided to make it work, we were both still in our early 20's and didn't understand that the other person has needs in a relationship.  Weither   those needs were emotional or sexual.. they were not being met.. for either of us. Men and Sex  Men learn everything about sex from pornography, and if you ask the woman in your life she will tell you that the orgasm the girl in the pretzel of a pose is faking it. Sure the reaction to sex is real.. but that BIG orgasm is all acting. Men learn to just stick it in and make it work... HELLO... have you ever heard of four play?? ...

The Struggle Is Real Out Here. I am not sure about any of my other moms( and dads) out there... but I am seriously struggling with all of this. It is not necessarily the whole quarantined thing, honestly I get it. This is all about how I feel on the inside because of this.  I love change, in fact whenever I can change something to hopefully make things better I completely embrace it. I love routine and I love to make a new system more and more productive.  Honestly, since like 2 weeks ago... I feel totally out of control of the change. I get it, no one was prepped for this, and logically this statement makes total sense... but emotionally I feel TERRIBLE .  The Mom Guilt is Real I am not Super mom and I know this, but why do I want to seem like I am?Why is everything in front of me so much more important? Why am I not giving myself the space to do the things that are important to me? What is even important to me at this time?  I mainly think it is beca...

Ok, lets have a chat... in this current time... are you team schedule or team no schedule? Is it better for you and your family to be on a schedule or just roam around and be free? This is a question I see asked a lot recently. Especially while parents who have become stay at home parents that used to not be one- this includes Me and my family. So the Questions remains... to schedule your time or not to schedule your time?? For me and my Family, we are team schedule.  The reason for that would be because I am an control freak hahaha ok....well that's true and all.. but honestly it is because my kids do better on a schedule then off on one. And really that's all that matters. We break our day up into time blocks. Its really helpful for the kids to know that at certain times they have certain responsibilities. It also helps teach my kids about time management... if they only have certain amount of time to do things then they will learn to make choices to fit that time....

Here we are... we have come to the end of our cleaning journey... Today is Sunday...I have finished what I wanted to finish... the amount of cleaning I have done over the last few days is absolutely crazy. I can not believe that I needed to do that much! Cleaning the first day was the kitchen, it took me HOURS to clean it. Which is crazy to me.. because I clean it very often lol.. but not the way that this list had me cleaning it. after wiping down the base boards and the cabinets and cleaning the fridge( again)...I was ready for a nap! hahaha! Cleaning my living room on day 2 wasn't that long... not sure what I did so different... maybe I was just aware of how much more work I would have to do for that room therefore I was prepped better. I did a lot of cleaning, it was great... even my kids noticed that the house was starting to look newer, which is always nice. Oh, and also, my vacuum broke.... I had to go buy a new one right in the middle of this. Now, I don't have too ...

The day after my Birthday and I have TONS to talk about!! How can I start this post without recognizing the obvious... I turned 30 years old and it was the quarantine. For those of you living under a rock... right now our EARTH is trying to survive a pandemic known as COVID-19 or The Coronavirus... it is a respiratory virus that is very contagious. Because of this most of the state that I live in is shut down. We are in self quarantine going on almost 1 month already... and there is talk of it going on for much longer. Any who... this is not about the virus, it is about me.. OF COURSE. My birthday this year was filled with a bit of reflection honestly. Having children so young has been difficult. I missed out on things in my twenties...it is ok, I love being a mom... but I can't help but think about my life the other way sometimes. Keith and I always say that we are prepping for 30. This age milestone seemed to be super important to us. After struggling for the last 10 years....

Day 4 and 5 were Strange... I think that had to do with the fact that I went back to work and I had to clean around my work scheduled... Which doesn't seem hard, but it is. There is almost no way to scrub the toilet and call a carrier about a payment for an insured. lol Like I said in my last post. I am giving myself grace. I am allowing myself to be a work in progress.. so let me tell you how the last two days went... Day 4 : The Kids Room So honestly, I don't really clean the kids room. The kids are in charge of cleaning their own room. Keith I feel that it is important for them to take care of their belongings. It teaches them to respect their things and the people that get them for them. So, I did not really clean their room. I think that later on during the weekend I will be cleaning underneath their beds... because well who knows what is underneath that lol. Day 5 : The Bathroom Here is the deal, I live at home with two males... cleaning the bathroom regularly is...

So i missed a day of posting about this, ok well in my defense... #momlife called me. lol In the meantime, I also went back to work full time. My job initially laid me off for 8-10 weeks and then a week into the lay off I got a call to come back. Oh and then... my Fiance, who is an essential employee got sent home to work. So now there are 4 of us in my apartment trying to be respectful, tidy, healthy and safe together.... oh and a cat.  Day 2 of Cleaning was my living room area. Honestly, it didn't take my as long as my kitchen. I move all the pieces out of the way and swept the floors and cleaned the based boards- which again was something that I had never done. The when I went to clean out the couches, I realized that my vacuum was busted.... ugh! What a time for a broken vacuum! So I bought a new one with target pick up lol. At the time I'm writing this 2 days later than the day I cleaned the living room, I still have to go back and clean the furniture out lol. At the e...

Yes, the title is scary. I turn 30 on April 6th... Although with all of this pandemic stuff happening, not sure that I will actually have a celebrations. Maybe instead I'll have an  Un-Birthday when this is all over...  ehhh lol who knows. That is not what this post is about. This post is a list of things that I wish that I had done prior to turning 30 years old... the NON Mom version. 5 Things I Wish I Did Before Turning 30 1. Buy a house I wish that I had bought a starter home, would have made the process after having children and being in a relationship a whole lot easier.  2. Saved and put  $10,000.00 in the Bank Having money in the bank would just make life easier in general. That safety nest would have made life so much easier. I cant tell you the  amount of things that could have changed if I had a safety net like this.  3. Gotten a college degree Ok, so I did not go to college. I have always said that I knew myself enough to kno...