My Life As Tanja

Schools Out? I n the state of Pennsylvania where I live, our Governor has declared that schools will remain closed for the rest of the year... yeah.. that just happened. Not sure about you mommas out there, but I am not a teacher. I do not have the patience to teach kindergarten and 4th grade... I don't remember them at all. PLUS all the learning has changed. What used to be math is now common core math. I guess the point of common core math is to make the kids look at solving problems? I don't know... but I do know.. I am not the person to teach it. I usually think that I am a patient person, but for some reason... not when it comes to school work.. I just.. I don't have it lol. I know that the teachers and the school districts are doing their best.. I mean, no one expected a pandemic to happen-- or did you? ( just kidding) Unsung Hero's We all know that the hero's in the world right now are the healthcare system and anyone who is e...

Keeping It Simple Is Best Something I have learned from cooking for my family for the years is that the easier I make the meals for my family the more willing they are to eat things. For a refresher my 2 kids are 6 and 9.. they have very different tastes in food. Carter is a total meat eater, if he didn't have to eat a veggie for his whole entire life he would be so ok with that.. especially green beans.. those could all die off of the planet and he would live on happily ever after lol. Alexis started out as a total vegetarian.. slowly she has allowed more than chicken into her diet.. but her love for veggies has not gone away. I never forced my kids to eat what they don't like, but I never stopped introducing and offering the item to them. Instead of offering a huge portion of something (like green beans), I will give small baby sized portions of the item. I will also tell my kids that their taste buds change all the time and maybe they don't like something a week...

How Do You Keep Your Relationship Spicy?  After 10 years of being together honestly, Keith and I have to work on being present in our relationship a lot. Especially because we were young parents,our whole relationship is surrounded around our kids. We literally have to make time to work on our relationship. We didn't really know each other too well when we had our first child together so when we decided to make it work, we were both still in our early 20's and didn't understand that the other person has needs in a relationship.  Weither   those needs were emotional or sexual.. they were not being met.. for either of us. Men and Sex  Men learn everything about sex from pornography, and if you ask the woman in your life she will tell you that the orgasm the girl in the pretzel of a pose is faking it. Sure the reaction to sex is real.. but that BIG orgasm is all acting. Men learn to just stick it in and make it work... HELLO... have you ever heard of four play?? ...

The Struggle Is Real Out Here. I am not sure about any of my other moms( and dads) out there... but I am seriously struggling with all of this. It is not necessarily the whole quarantined thing, honestly I get it. This is all about how I feel on the inside because of this.  I love change, in fact whenever I can change something to hopefully make things better I completely embrace it. I love routine and I love to make a new system more and more productive.  Honestly, since like 2 weeks ago... I feel totally out of control of the change. I get it, no one was prepped for this, and logically this statement makes total sense... but emotionally I feel TERRIBLE .  The Mom Guilt is Real I am not Super mom and I know this, but why do I want to seem like I am?Why is everything in front of me so much more important? Why am I not giving myself the space to do the things that are important to me? What is even important to me at this time?  I mainly think it is beca...

Ok, lets have a chat... in this current time... are you team schedule or team no schedule? Is it better for you and your family to be on a schedule or just roam around and be free? This is a question I see asked a lot recently. Especially while parents who have become stay at home parents that used to not be one- this includes Me and my family. So the Questions remains... to schedule your time or not to schedule your time?? For me and my Family, we are team schedule.  The reason for that would be because I am an control freak hahaha ok....well that's true and all.. but honestly it is because my kids do better on a schedule then off on one. And really that's all that matters. We break our day up into time blocks. Its really helpful for the kids to know that at certain times they have certain responsibilities. It also helps teach my kids about time management... if they only have certain amount of time to do things then they will learn to make choices to fit that time....

Here we are... we have come to the end of our cleaning journey... Today is Sunday...I have finished what I wanted to finish... the amount of cleaning I have done over the last few days is absolutely crazy. I can not believe that I needed to do that much! Cleaning the first day was the kitchen, it took me HOURS to clean it. Which is crazy to me.. because I clean it very often lol.. but not the way that this list had me cleaning it. after wiping down the base boards and the cabinets and cleaning the fridge( again)...I was ready for a nap! hahaha! Cleaning my living room on day 2 wasn't that long... not sure what I did so different... maybe I was just aware of how much more work I would have to do for that room therefore I was prepped better. I did a lot of cleaning, it was great... even my kids noticed that the house was starting to look newer, which is always nice. Oh, and also, my vacuum broke.... I had to go buy a new one right in the middle of this. Now, I don't have too ...

The day after my Birthday and I have TONS to talk about!! How can I start this post without recognizing the obvious... I turned 30 years old and it was the quarantine. For those of you living under a rock... right now our EARTH is trying to survive a pandemic known as COVID-19 or The Coronavirus... it is a respiratory virus that is very contagious. Because of this most of the state that I live in is shut down. We are in self quarantine going on almost 1 month already... and there is talk of it going on for much longer. Any who... this is not about the virus, it is about me.. OF COURSE. My birthday this year was filled with a bit of reflection honestly. Having children so young has been difficult. I missed out on things in my twenties...it is ok, I love being a mom... but I can't help but think about my life the other way sometimes. Keith and I always say that we are prepping for 30. This age milestone seemed to be super important to us. After struggling for the last 10 years....